Sohaila Abdulali was the first Indian survivor to speak out about rape. Gangraped as a teenager in Bombay and indignant at the deafening silence on the issue in India, she wrote an article for a womans magazine questioning how we perceive rape and rape victims. Thirty years later, she saw the story go viral in the wake of the fatal 2012 Delhi rape and the global outcry that followed.Writing from the viewpoint of a survivor, writer, counsellor and activist, and drawing on three decades of grappling with the issue personally and professionally and her work with hundreds of survivors, Sohaila Abdulali looks at what wewomen, men, politicians, teachers, writers, sex workers, feminists, sages, mansplainers, victims and familiesthink about rape and what we say.She also explores what we dont say. She asks pertinent questions Is rape always a lifedefining event Does rape always symbolize something Is rape worse than death Is rape related to desire Who gets raped Is rape inevitable Is one rape worse than the other Who rapes What is consent How do you recover a sense of safety and joy How do you raise sons Who gets to judge